Monday, June 10, 2013


Sorta glad 5th grade is behind us.

My 11-year old daughter has faced her fair share of drama at school this past year. And I have found myself excusing this behavior – along with fellow mommy friends, we warn our daughters about “mean girls” and that it unfortunately gets worse between now and the end of high school. But that’s a lie. It exists everywhere. Even in the world of blogging and social media. I’ve heard horror stories from bloggers verbally beaten down by their competitors, and I quiver with fear that that might someday happen to me.

There’s a collective understanding that girls and women “are mean.” That’s there’s some rite of passage about having to console our daughters who fall victim to the sting of hurtful words. And I want to stand upon a podium and yell “enough!” because I know so many women who prove this stereotype untrue. I’ve met them. I continue to meet them. We support each other, we learn from one another, and we celebrate each other’s strengths and accomplishments.

I’m so over the whole femiNAZI mentality some of us have. What’s wrong with being humble and gracious and possessing a serving heart? God made us all equal – we are amazing from the start – equipped with greatness and abilities. Why shouldn’t we be on the same team?!

I didn’t think much about my behavior before having babies. And then I began having babies, and those babies started growing up. And during these years, what I believe starts to matter and now I have a responsibility to pass on valuable morals and beliefs.

I guess the only way to teach this is to model it. So, my hope for my daughter is that she sees me embrace women with love and support and encouragement. Talk about them with kindness. And applaud their successes. That she sees me emanate love and kindness and acceptance for those around us and for our less than perfect selves.

Be honest. What are your thoughts on this topic?

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