Monday, January 13, 2014

CONFIDENT IN MOTHERHOOD



I read this quote from one my favorite blogs, Top of the Page:

"Living your life to get that deep God-like validation from your peers is a scary place to be in. If someone threatens your sense of self and questions your choices, watch out. "On Christ the SOLID ROCK I stand. All other ground is sinking sand..." Basing one's self-worth on the opinions of the masses is nothing but sinking sand."

What happened to the me that didn’t care what people thought? Some days, I wish I could be her again. I was so “out there” then. Paved my own path. Created my own style. Nothing of mine was like that of my peers. I allowed myself to be free. And think freely. To be ME.

I’m on a mission again to gain some of that independent thought back into my daily life. This round, a little wiser, a bit more educated, and more in tune with my faith.

On the heels of that though, Pete and I often cringe at the thought of someone seeing our son drink from his bottle. Given that he’s 2-1/2 years now. And apparently, in the big book of parenting, that’s a “no-no.”

I was completely textbook raising both our “bigs” – and partly because they cooperated soundly. Reef has, also -- around 6-8 months started drinking water from sippy cups, and around one year old began drinking from real cups. He uses both forks and spoons (preferably on his part) and feeds himself. So, I just don’t think it’s much of a big deal for him to stop drinking milk from a bottle in the mornings if it makes him happy. We don't let them him drink from bottles in the night, but he sure considers it a real treat to snuggle one of us and sooth himself with a warm bottle of milk just before bedtime. Back in the "old days" they didn’t have sippy cups, so why is it a big deal now?! I know he won’t be 5 years old drinking from a bottle...so for now…I am confident with just letting him be little.





3 comments:

  1. "What happened to the me that didn’t care what people thought? Some days, I wish I could be her again. I was so “out there” then. Paved my own path. Created my own style. Nothing of mine was like that of my peers. I allowed myself to be free. And think freely. To be ME."

    I can relate to this! I've always kinda did my own thing, not thinking what others said or thought. I realize that when I started caring about what others think is when I became insecure, always second guessing myself. Growing up, I had it easy until my early teens. I was teased and felt like an outcast at a small private school. High school was really about me struggling to find my identity and value- my place in the world. College? Not as bad as high school but still- more of the same.

    I look back at those years and realize that I felt so insecure and was really compromising who I was just to find a place to fit in. Now I realize that my value and identity is in Christ, not in this world. I'm valuable because of who I am, not because of what I do. I'm not perfect, but God loves me and Christ died for me- I know my worth is not of this world!

    As for parenting? As long as your children are loved and healthy, why should anyone comment or complain?

    Have a blessed day!

    ♥ Vanessa @ Her Heart Proclaims

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  2. Oh man, how I needed to read this. Thanks so so much! It's so easy to let people's opinions get to you especially when they're coming from family.. I keep having to remember to say "Hey Jesus, what do you think?" :) Much love!! Heather @http://likeamorningcupofcoffee.blogspot.com/

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  3. I love that song by Israel Houghton with that line "On "On Christ the SOLID ROCK I stand. All other ground is sinking sand..." I've always been bothered of how I look to people. I hope the day will come when I'll stop thinking about what they think of me and just be concerned of the way He (God) thinks about me. Thank you for the inspiration :)

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