Friday, November 1, 2013

BE PERFECTLY YOURSELF




Halloween costumes this year gave me an epiphany – people wear masks all year round.

(Hang on tight, lovelies! I'm about to get bold.)


In that, I mean, people hide who they really are. I see it on social media a lot – a misguided attempt to gain favor or be liked, when the interior of one’s life is fragile and/or possibly falling apart. Perhaps it’s an escape from real-world disappointments or perceived failures or wishing to be something they’re not. There’s almost too much hypocrisy that I often have to remove myself from Facebook for days, even weeks. 


And I get it. I once tamed the reality of a bad relationship – pretended it was normal behavior. All the while, creating a world of imagination with my kids – pure play, simple and undefiled. But why smile on the outside when we’re crying on the inside, desperate and lonely and broken? How does that help matters? How does that help others? It doesn’t. Instead, it makes people compare their reality to your imaginary perfection. And everyone goes spiraling down the same rabbit hole.


During that time, I ran after things I thought would make me happy. And, oh, the running I’ve done. When I lost every material thing in my life, watched things get taken from me or destroyed, it jolted me awake. It made me realize that every circumstance, every hard relationship, every opportunity and every closed door made me into who He wanted me to be.


You will live your life as your believe it, I know. But let me remind you: you are the only you that will ever live. And God lives in you. And He wants more than anything to live through you – using your unique gifts, talents, personality, and propensities.

Be perfectly yourself. Cease being an obstacle to yourself and everyone else. Comfortable in your own skin so that those around you can be who they are.

 



14 comments:

  1. "Be perfectly yourself." Love it. :)

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  2. Love this post! My husband and I were actually talking about this very topic, the other day. About how so many people are different through the internet than they really are in real life. It goes even farther with some Christians. They'll be different people between church and their lifestyle outside of church. I try so hard to be real, because I don't want to be one of those that others look at and wonder who I really am. It's definitely difficult to be real, because it opens you up to hurt and makes you vulnerable. But, like you said, who we are is who God has molded us to be, and there's nothing more perfect than His craftsmanship. :)

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    1. It's hard not to judge when you're so busy judging, you know? I try to tell myself that it's not our place to determine the rights and wrongs of others, but you can't help but get a bad taste in your mouth when...well, I won't get any specifics, but when it's evident to you that that person stating something on her Facebook and/or blog is actively doing the opposite behind the scenes.

      Like you, I strive to be authentic. And while, yes, it makes you vulnerable and sometimes a target, at least it helps "pull the weeds" so-to-speak.

      I'm thinking and praying on you Lydia -- please do the same for me. xoxo

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  3. Hi! New friend and follower here from the Let's Be Friends Blog Hop #37!!!

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    1. Thrilled to meet you! Please send me the link to your blog...

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  4. HAHAHAH FANTASTIC costumes!

    ▼ Nicole ▼
    www.hausofharnois.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks, Nicole! We enjoy dressing up every year -- it's a favorite past time. This year was challenging a bit, as I'm 7 months pregnant.

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  5. So cute!!!

    xo
    Christina
    christinawhoblog.com

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    1. Thanks, Christina! For your comment and for your attention -- I sure appreciate my audience!

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  6. Very true!! It's something that can bring such peace when you are truly yourself, not hiding behind any masks....thanks for the reminder! And how awesome are your costumes!!! those SHOES!!!!

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  7. Loved this Mandi... so eloquently written. I have to do the same thing with FB because it all seems like such a show most of the time. It's so hard being a blogger and having to depend on social media! It's so easy to put on a mask and not be authentic. In fact... that's part of the reason we recently gave up our life in a way too perfect {at least on the outside} master planned community in Southern California. Our life is so much more simple now that we live in a small town in our local mountains! The kids are drawing closer to each other... and overall our family is drawing closer to God. Loved your bold, poignant post... and of course the darling costumes! xo

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I am incredibly grateful for your comment! I will respond as soon as possible. XOXO, Mandi

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