Thursday, July 4, 2013

REAL FRIENDS



I love coconut pie and hate small talk. She [my friend who shall remain unnamed] is brilliantly successful and so getting into Heaven before I do. But we’re friends for more than 15 years, two Starbuck’s drinking, maxi-dress-wearing, child-rearing friends…both on a spiritual journey together.

What we both know is that faith-filled friendship is more about sharing the rough-and-tumble of ordinary life than practicing spiritual piety. We are both people we want to learn from. And though we rarely get to spend time together due to miles between us, we part feeling inspired in our faith and our souls nourished. No doubt about it!

You know how hypnotizing Facebook can be -- making one’s imperfect world appear perfect and idealistic – surrounded by seemingly happy, devoted people (typically drinking buddies) that apparently love and adore him/her? More times than none, as soon as he/she gets married, starts a family, and/or reacquaints his/her relationship with Christ, those friends usually trickle to few. Sometimes none.

Like my pastor says "those aren't real friends. They're people propping up each others sin."

A real friend is a person who only wants the best for you. A real friend genuinely wishes for your happiness and well being. A real friend would be happy if you are happy in a romantic relationship, job, with other friendships and endeavors. A real friendship has depth. Has a common denominator…Christ.

So, don’t be fooled, my friend. We are meant for more than virtual friendships. Just because someone “likes” all your photos and statuses, feels the need to post on social media the slightest things you do together because they feel they have something to prove, it’s usually for selfish desires and personal pleasure. And selfish gains are hallmarks of a not-so-real friendship. 

Start by asking God to put people in your life that’ll inspire your faith and nourish your soul. And be persistent about putting yourself in the presence of people you want to learn from—even if they're different from you.

I can’t prove this, but I have a notion that we haven’t yet met some of the people who will end up being some of our closest friends.




10 comments:

  1. I love this post. Thanks for sharing! Happy 4th!

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  2. I get caught up in this all the time...wondering why my good friend didn't like my status, photo, etc. Some days it's hard for me to separate my real from virtual friends. I have made so many unlikely friends lately, and am grateful for how God works despite my forgetfulness.

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  3. Loved everything, so true. Now that Christ is center in my life, followed by my husband, then daughter, those so called friends of mine went running. But I believe that Christ has some amazing friendships in store and lately they have been coming into focus. Thanks for the encouraging post!

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  4. I agree! We've got tons of our life left ahead of us, there's no way we're never going to meet another best friend. :)

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  5. I love this post. Well said. :)

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  6. I needed this so much. Even at 12:20 AM, you find a way to warm my heart.

    XOXO

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  7. I love this. and needed this. I've been doing this....

    Start by asking God to put people in your life that’ll inspire your faith and nourish your soul. And be persistent about putting yourself in the presence of people you want to learn from—even if they're different from you.



    and its amazing how God can take those that dont need to be in your life and put people there who need to be in your life and for that very reason to inspire you and lead you in the right direction.

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  8. What a great, heartwarming post. I love the REAL friends I have in my life, and love making new ones.

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  9. Mandi, those post is brilliant and so good.

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  10. This was so encouraging... thanks for sharing your heart! I just stumbled across your blog today and you hooked me! !:)

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I am incredibly grateful for your comment! I will respond as soon as possible. XOXO, Mandi

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