Saturday, May 11, 2013

SIMPLY PRESENT

life……goes by in a hurry

last night I thought of my grandmother and how quickly she was taken from me

it’s just so sad

i wish i would have been present more often to rub her back in her last year; she loved that

a life lesson came to me, really a parenting lesson i suppose

you see, growing up, some of my VERY fondest memories are with my grandmother

she lived within minutes of me, on a quiet cul-de-sac street with 100 year old trees

wood paneled walls, 60’s style furniture

dishes washed by hand, coffee always brewing

there was nothing visibly exciting about her home, only a few toys….if that

and i craved being there. i was there ALL THE TIME

i have told many, that my fondest memories of childhood were with her

what made my life so special with them? they were PRESENT

she never played games with me, or gave me advice. i don’t recall playing with toys or having any deep

conversations really. she never got angry with me

my “nanny”

she lived a simple life and included me in her daily routine, whatever that may have been

we would walk the yard looking for pecans, she always had a deck of cards for me to play solitaire, and bought me ice cream every day after school

i would watch wheel of fortune at the same time, every day, and she always knew the answer before I did

her home was quiet – i can remember the sound of clocks ticking

i always slept with her in her bed

she was never more than 10 ft from me at any given point

i was never a bother, i felt special in her home in fact.

the greatest lesson she has taught me is to be simply present and content {which i have to work on daily}

to include my children in the ordinary and accept them the way they are

to be gentle

to show love

and not criticize their every move

she left me with a feeling of love and acceptance

and yet all she was……….was present

simple. loving. present

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14 comments:

  1. Oh my I love your grandma.. love the tips too..
    I'd try my best to be gentle and not so critical of my kids.
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    1. It's an effort for me, too, Mitchelle. Not being critical of my kids, that is. It's so easy to dissect every little thing they do wrong. I have to remind myself that they are just that...kids. And as humans, we must learn through experiences. And it's okay to let them scrape their knees every once in a while.

      XOXO

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  2. It's such beautiful wording , I feel like I am missing my granny , she lives far away from our house.

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    1. Grandmothers are so precious! Even if you don't see your granny often, give her a call or write her a hand-written note, just to say I love you.

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  5. This year, my beautiful mother had to be moved into a nursing home- something I never thought that I would allow to happen. Unfortunately, disease set in so quickly and the medical care she now requires is beyond anything that could safely be provided at home. I miss going to her house, the coffee smell, the décor, the sense of well being and home too. At least my mom is still here though, so I try to spend as much time as I can with her...just loving her. Have a wonderful Mother's Day.

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    1. The dynamics have changed, and I know that can be hard. But you're doing the right thing, by seeing the positive...that she's present in your life. There's nothing more important than that -- enjoy one another while you still can. XOXO

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  6. Thank you for sharing this story, Mandi! I always feel as if I had to make my time with the girls special, to create childhood memories, and admittedly sometimes get too caught up in the planning to really enjoy the time with them. Enjoy the good memories, Mandi!

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    1. Stephanie, you're so right...life often gets in the way of our focus. It happens to the best of us. And though we may stumble, the people who love you, know your heart's intentions. There's no doubt in my mind that your girls know they are special. xoxo

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  7. Love this story Mandi!!!!

    Thinking of you friend!!!

    Happy Mother's Day.

    XOXO

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    1. Aw, thanks Kenzie! It was a rather wonderful day. Quite honestly, Mother's Day is about me celebrating the privilege of being my kids' mother.

      I hope your day was equally as memorable!

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  8. So true- the "Stuff" doesnt matter as much as being "present." So glad you had these memories with your nanny!

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    1. Thank you! It was such a simple relationship -- really no lavishes that I recall. But I always knew in my heart that she was readily available to me -- someone I could always count on no matter the circumstance. I don't know many people like that anymore.

      Hope your weekend was beautiful and may you find glory in the small things this week!

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