I arrived at home one night last week to find everyone bickering. And the baby whining. It went on like this for...I don't know...an hour or two. Then someone had to go and complain about dinner, and right then and there, I lost it. In an effort not to yell, I clinched my teeth and spewed some not-so-uplifting words to my oldest son.
I sat back in my chair, and immediately regretted having lost my 'cool'. I'm usually the one at home with the most patience. But I naturally expect of others the same that I expect of myself, and that right there sets me up for disappointment.
In the grand scheme of things, I have nothing to complain about. My little family is gifted far beyond our worth. Each one of us. It seems paradoxical, but it's true -- when you stop resisting your life and start accepting it and its idiosyncrasies, you gain power. Your attention slides from what is wrong, what shouldn't be, what is frustrating you, to what is working, what be improved, what is beautiful.
But how can you choose to accept a struggle?
It's simple. You choose happy. It's odd to think that. It's not a destination you reach. It's not a thing you can buy. It's not something other people give you. It's just a choice. You choose to release the things that bring you down. Instead, you choose to focus on those lovely things that fill you with joy.
Honestly, this is something I work on everyday. It is the simplest thing in the world, and the hardest -- letting go of the resistance and moving forward in joy.
Just today, I stumbled upon the following 'rules to live by' and thought I'd share them. We can all get in a funk sometimes, but I think its important when that happens to put things in perspective and remember that the only person that can make you happy or sad is you. So here's a little more love today...
12 Rules to Live By
Robert Louis Stevenson (1850-1894)
// Make up your mind to be happy. Learn to find pleasure in simple things.
// Make the best of circumstances. No one has everything and everyone has something of sorrow.
// Don't take yourself too seriously.
// Don't let criticism worry you. You can't please everybody.
// Don't let your neighbors set your standards; be yourself.
// Do things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt.
// Don't borrow trouble. Imaginary things are harder to bear than actual ones.
// Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish enmities and grudges. Avoid people who make you unhappy.
// Have many interests. If you can't travel, read about places.
// Don't hold postmortems or spend time brooding over sorrows and mistakes.
// Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.
// Keep busy at something. A very busy person never has time to be unhappy.
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